Talking to Yourself – Losing Your Filter

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One of the pitfalls of spending too much time alone is that you may begin talking to yourself. If you have pets then you might justify talking to yourself by claiming you’re actually just talking to them, letting them know they’re not alone and that you care for them, but what you may not realize, is that you’re losing your filter.

Here’s the problem, and it may not occur for a few years of isolation, but it can be a problem regardless of when it appears. On the odd occasion when you do go out, you may find yourself saying inappropriate things. Things that may make you seem a little bit crazy, especially if you’ve never spoken inappropriately before.

Example: Recently I visited a friend to celebrate her birthday. It was a pretty big one, the big 60. We were in the kitchen – my friend, her husband, and I – just standing around talking. I excused myself to the ladies room. When I returned to the kitchen, it was empty, except for me and the cat.

oops-did-i-say-thatI waited around for a couple of minutes, refreshing my drink and having a snack. Then I walked outside onto the patio for a cigarette, and there they were! I said, “Oh, here you are! I thought maybe y’all were having a little birthday sex.”

And there it was, that dreaded look of shock on their faces. Their eyes got big and then they had that awkward little giggle, and then I said something else  – quickly. “So what are you guys doing to celebrate the birthday girl?” Oops, not better. Oh my gawd. Then I followed up with, “Are y’all going out to dinner tonight? Have you tried that new place on Main Street yet? I hear it’s really good.” Whew, crisis averted. (Inner thought – note that you’re losing your filter – work on that.)

Why is that so shocking?

Mind you, these are not words that would normally pass through my lips. So while they may seem harmless to most people, anyone hearing me say that out loud would cringe. It’s not the words, it’s the person from whom they came.

It’s also the people to whom the words are delivered. Tidbits of personal life, nor an off-color joke, have ever slipped through their lips, at least not in my presence. These are very private people, and I just invaded their innermost sanctum.

You may lose your filter when you spend most of your time alone, talking to yourself. It’s not life-threatening, but it can certainly be embarrassing, and it’s definitely difficult to explain why you just blurted out whatever you were thinking without giving it a second thought.

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And… it’s a bit uncomfortable knowing that your friends are now concerned for your sanity. Remember, we’re 60-ish, not 30-ish. A drastic change in verbal content at this stage of life can be perceived as problematic to say the least.

Remember that the next time a friend or loved one who lives alone or spends most of their time alone, starts talking and says something unexpected that shocks you.

They’re just losing their filter, not their mind.

 

 

 

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Where We Live

I’ve been helping someone search for a new and more convenient city / state to live in because they are now travelling the country in their job. Right now, she has to drive to Charleston, SC or Myrtle Beach, SC, to catch a flight to a large airport hub such as Charlotte, NC, or Atlanta, GA, and then proceed to her final destination. This causes a nasty little layover that is not only a waste of time, but is also quite frustrating when repeated twice weekly.

Charlotte Douglas International Airport (CLT) is looking pretty good, but I was hoping she could leave the south altogether. Living Blue in a Red state isn’t unbearably awful, but why not at least look for a more hospitable area where like minded individuals are easier to find.

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Image from: http://charlotteusa.com/business-info/transportation/

As I’ve been searching for locations with large airport hubs, I have also been checking the climate of each location, as well as the likelihood of natural disasters. After all, if you’re flying in and out of town each week, you don’t want to deal with iced planes and other dangerous situations.

One thing i have realized during this quest, is that there are places with much better climates than the one I was born to. Then I wondered why more people don’t relocate to areas where the climate is more suitable to their personal disposition.

Some people love snow, some love rain, some must live near water, some wish to view mountains every day… and yet, far too many Americans remain where they were born, settling. Whatever happened to the pioneer spirit?

Where we live should be a subject of at least some consideration. For instance, I discovered that I loved living in Arizona. The dry climate did wonders for my allergies and I had absolutely no hives during the five years I lived there.

Here’s another little tidbit that helped me rule out some states…

The top 10 states for tornadoes as of the most recent (1991-2015) average are as follows, in order from high to low: Texas, Kansas, Oklahoma, Florida, Nebraska, Illinois, Colorado, Iowa, Alabama, Missouri, and Mississippi.

The US experiences more than 1,000 tornadoes a year, and the storms have been reported on every continent except Antarctica.

 

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I’ll be posting more of my results for easy access and for future reference as I search for a suitable suburb in a metropolitan area within 30 – 45 minutes of a large airport hub offering direct flights across the country.

Feel free to make recommendations.

 

 

 

Sit Down in the Green Grass

Sit down in the green grass and prepare to receive.

Understand the omnipotence (infinite power) of good, the science of good, and the divine law of good.

Our definitions of God might not be the same, but the principles of life are universal.

The following article (see excerpt below) by Michelle Nanouche, “The Divine Law of Good,” at the Christian Science Monitor, provides a new perspective on manifesting, having faith, universal laws, and living your life aware of every moment.

It is based on the New Testament story (see links below), where Jesus miraculously fed the multitudes with fish and loaves of bread.

Excerpt:

Various Bible commentaries give different interpretations of Christ Jesus’ instruction, but this is my favorite: Perhaps it was to prepare them to be served.

I picture the crowd turning from their fear of being without food, to sitting down and quietly preparing for something remarkable occurring to meet their need.

And something remarkable did occur. Jesus knew there is a divine law of good operating that cannot be blocked or thwarted. He knew that God is all-powerful and only good; a God that eternally cares for all creation, including man.

Jesus’ understanding of this divine law or Science of good allowed him to meet human needs in remarkable ways, and everyone was fed.

 

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References:

Article: The Divine Law of Good

Michelle Nanouche’s blog

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feeding_the_multitude

Let us then, learn to make known our requests with thanksgiving and in acceptance. And having done this, in that silent communion of our soul with its Source, let us believe that the Law of Good will do the rest.
Ernest Holmes, How to Use Your Secret Power