How many men raped women

Jackson Katz’s words have gone viral, and with good reason. I am so thankful for men who have the conviction and the courage to speak up about violence and harassment. Katz said that the quote below is from a speech he delivered five years ago. Lately, it has gone viral throughout Twitter and Facebook, in the aftermath of #HarveyWeinstein revelations and the #MeToo hashtags of women who have been attacked or harassed.

“I have been doing and saying this stuff for a long time—the only difference is now people are paying attention.”


We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many men raped women.

We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many boys harassed girls.

We talk about how many teenage girls got pregnant last year, rather than how many boys and men impregnated teenage girls.

So you can see how the use of the passive voice has a political effect. It shifts the focus off of men and boys and onto girls and women.

Even the term ‘violence against women’ is problematic. It’s a passive construction; there’s no active agent in the sentence. It’s a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term ‘violence against women,’ nobody is doing it to them. It just happens to them…. Men aren’t even a part of it!

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Jackson Katz, Ph.D.

Jackson Katz

God’s Divine Plan for You

My youngest daughter is graduating high school this year, and we spend much time in prayer for her future and her decisions… that she will remain in God’s will and divine plan for her life.

The other day, I came across a verse that gave me much comfort concerning the matter, and I shared it with her.

For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.

Philippians 2:13 (New Living Translation)

I love the way this translation reads. It makes so much sense.

God has given us the desires that began when we were just children… it might have been singing, dancing, art, crafts, flowers, building, cooking, making people laugh….

Whatever it was that brought us the most joy may have had the hidden key to our divine plan.

As long as our young people continue in their faith, seeking God and staying in communion with Him, then they can trust that the desire in their heart is planted there by God, and that He will give them the power to follow that dream.

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.

Philippians 4:13 (New Living Translation)

Should teens sign pledge forms?


I remember when I was a teen, our Church had a special pledge signing one Sunday night.

Things were simpler then, we only pledged not to smoke and drink.

Fast forward to the 90s, when my teen daughter signed a pledge to save herself for marriage.

Fast forward again to 2008 and I have found a whole new pledge – one I wasn’t expecting.

I’d like to hear your thoughts on this…

There is no official form to sign, but some of the youth in my daughter’s youth group have decided to take a pledge that they will not date until God lets them know that the “right” one (for marriage) has arrived.

My daughter is 17, she has already dated – she started dating at 16. Her boyfriend now (for the past year) lives in another state. She only sees him on holidays and a few weeks during the summer. His parents don’t allow him to date, so she is never alone with him.

However, she still doesn’t feel she should take this pledge. Apparently only 3 of the girls have not taken the vow, and she is feeling like they are judging her. I told her that “following the Leader” is not the way to please God and that she should continue to pray over it and then act accordingly. If they judge her for it, that is their problem.

Personally, I don’t like these church “pledges” because it seems to me that you are setting up a young person to feel like a failure if they “betray” the pledge before they reach adulthood.

Keep in mind too, that God has not asked our young people to sign “pledges.”

He simply expects them to keep the faith, walk the faith, and to grow in wisdom and in stature with God and man.

As Proverbs says… “Let no man despise thy youth…”

Why are we “humans” trying to lock our children into obedience by having them make pledges?

I have taught my children to think for themselves – not following any human’s teachings – only God’s. I am proud to say that they have been nothing but a blessing to me.

What are your thoughts on this?

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